The climate of today's world would lead you to believe that love should not be a priority. I've felt pressure as a queer black woman to let my activism and advocacy take priority over love, intimacy, and joy. In doing that, I've done myself a huge disservice. I've found that for Black Love to flourish in my life, I need back up. There have been songs, and poems, stories, and quotes that have allowed me to learn to love in brand new ways.
1. Zora Neale Hurston | This quote taught me to allow love to be flexible. When we let love take the shape of it's container, you will see that it shifts in shape and stance as you experience it. It expands and contracts and with each iteration we must be open to the way it manifests in our lives.
2. James Baldwin | For love to be fully present, you have to trust the vulnerability of your truth. You cannot love if you are unwilling to show the portions of yourself you most loathe and unsure of. This transparecy will save you.
Joy is hard when there is so much sorrow and trepidation surrounding our lives. Though we've been in survival mode since we landed here in this country, the current state of affairs has heightened the nonnegotiable need to take better care of ourselves. Attending to our joy should not, and frankly cannot be an elective action. We all know that we are better & braver when our joy takes priority.
Here are 30 ways to make it through...
Titty Grabs (Either your own, or with proper consent.) --You can't really be mad with a boob in your hand.
Twerk Sumthing. "Cash Money taking over for the 99 & 2000"
Take off your bra and/or draws
Talk to almost any black grandparent. If you don't have one borrow one.